During the 50s to 90s, when a man wanted to meet a woman and date her, he had to go through the following:
1. Find someone they know mutually to introduce them to each other. If there is no one, get the courage to introduce one’s self and pray they don’t get flat out rejected.
2. Meet the parents. Yes, this was a must. You needed to visit the house of the woman so that you can prove you had no bad intentions.
3. Actually get to know each other as well as her family to see if there was any compatibility which entailed continuously visiting her at home to get her and her parents to say yes to the two of you going out.
WOW! Why is it so hard you may think? You just wanna have a cup of coffee and you had to go through all of those things? Can’t we just meet up? Can’t we just date asap?
Before, the answer would have been a big fat NO.
Nowadays, people’s standards have apparently gone so low that a billboard proposal is considered as “major props.”
Think about it ladies. What did Xian Gaza really do? Xian Gaza shelled out money to ask for a date in the most public way possible. The guy is basically backing the girl into a corner and “forcing” her to say yes because he “made an effort.”
However, what effort was made aside from spending of a huge sum of money that the guy could afford anyway since he’s a CEO?
Wouldn’t it have been more effort if he had used his connections to get someone to invite him to the same parties the girl also attended? Wouldn’t it have made more effort if he had found a way to personally introduce himself to her and gather the courage to ask her out face to face? Wouldn’t it have been more effort if he contacted her manager and asked for help, explaining that he is simply smitten.
It’s sad that mainstream media applauds this guy for his move when the subject of the attention has not expressly stated that she is okay with what just happened. This is not effort. This is not props. This is not kilig. What Xian Gaza did does not make him Prince Charming.
They are strangers to each other. This is simply creepy and if you think having a total stranger come up to you and ask you out in front of an audience is okay, then you need to check your need for self validation.
This is not okay. This is being catcalled magnified 100x. It is unwanted attention from a creep.who has money which makes it worse 100x.